Mountain View Therapist

Mountain View Therapist

When Success on the Outside Does Not Match How You Feel Inside

There are moments when the pressure hits before you even know why, like sitting in your car before work or staring at the ceiling at night with your heart racing for no clear reason. You did everything you were supposed to do. You followed the plan, checked the boxes, and built a life others would call successful. So why does it still feel like something is off?

You have worked hard to create stability, yet inside there is a restless feeling you cannot explain. You push yourself to keep going, to hold everything together, to stay productive, but the calm never lasts. Everyone else seems to know how to set boundaries or take breaks or rest without guilt. You want that too, but you do not know how to get there.

Some days you wonder if something is wrong with you. You remind yourself to be grateful for what you have, but there is a constant hum of anxiety that never shuts off. You wake up already tired, deep in your body and deep in your chest. Even before your feet hit the floor, you can feel the heaviness of another day that looks exactly like the one before.

You show up to work and try to focus, but your mind keeps spinning. You replay conversations, overanalyze your performance, and brace for the next thing that might go wrong. You tell yourself to calm down, to get it together, but it takes everything you have. You want to trust yourself again, to feel steady, to believe you can handle whatever comes next without feeling like you might fall apart.

The Constant Tension You Cannot Explain

Most days, it feels like you are living with a quiet panic. You hold it together for everyone else, but inside your chest there is a buzzing tension, like you are waiting for something to drop. You overthink every interaction and question whether you were too much or not enough.

When the pressure builds, it spills out in ways you cannot always control. You freeze, shut down, or react sharply before you even realize it. You hate how easily overwhelmed you become. You notice the confusion in your partner’s eyes, and afterward the guilt sinks in. You apologize again and again, worried about how long people will keep giving you patience. You feel tired of being the one who cannot relax or let things go.

When the People Who Care Cannot Carry It Anymore

You have tried talking about it. Your friends and family listen, but there is only so much they can hold. You can feel their exhaustion, and honestly, you are tired of hearing yourself repeat the same stories too. You want real change, not another round of venting that leaves you in the same place.

Maybe you tried therapy before, and it felt too surface level or too distant. You needed someone to go deeper, someone who could help you understand what is happening inside you instead of offering quick fixes. You do not want to start over again with someone who will not really get it. Still, you know something needs to shift. You cannot keep moving through life in survival mode.

Understanding What Is Happening Inside You

I am Ryan Thurwacter, LCSW, a Mountain View therapist who helps young professionals find calm, confidence, and connection again. I support people who feel overwhelmed by their emotions, disconnected from who they used to be, and unsure how to find peace in a life they worked so hard to build.

In our work together, I use Internal Family Systems, a gentle approach that helps you make sense of the different parts of yourself that are fighting for control. There is the anxious part that spins with what if thoughts, the angry part that reacts before you can catch yourself, and the part that wishes everything would stop so you could finally rest.

These parts developed for a reason. They are trying to protect you, even if their methods feel overwhelming. When we slow down and make space for them, something shifts. They soften. You begin to guide your emotions instead of being swept away by them. The constant buzzing quiets. Your body feels safer. You begin to trust your reactions instead of fearing them.

You start noticing more ease in your days. You set clearer boundaries without feeling guilty. You recognize that you were never broken, you were overwhelmed and unsupported in ways that finally make sense.

What Therapy Can Feel Like

Therapy with me is not about worksheets or rigid steps. It is a real, grounded conversation about what is happening inside you and why. I will teach you mindfulness and IFS tools that help you steady yourself when anxiety spikes, whether you are at work, with your partner, or alone in your thoughts.

Clients often describe our work as finally understanding themselves. Not in a vague or distant sense, but in a way that feels deeply true. They say things like, “I do not spiral anymore,” or “I actually understand what is happening inside me.” They become more present in their relationships. They set limits that feel realistic instead of forced. They reconnect with parts of life that used to bring joy but have been pushed aside for too long.

You Do Not Have to Keep Holding Everything Alone

Therapy does not need to feel overwhelming. It can feel like clarity. It can feel like relief. It can feel like finally having support instead of carrying everything by yourself. You deserve to feel calm in your own skin and steady in your relationships. You deserve a life that feels possible again.

If you are curious about what working together might feel like, I offer a free 15 minute consultation where we can talk through what you are experiencing and what you hope for. There is no pressure to commit. If I am not the right therapist for you, I will do my best to help you find someone who is a good fit.

You can reach out by calling 669-577-6800 or by email here. I look forward to connecting with you.